That touch, that tenderness, still causes butterflies in my Cat Madame poisse shirt. I share this for educational purposes and general awareness, mainly because it’s not exactly what I would have expected as a hoover. But for my covert narcissist, this hoover strategy actually makes perfect sense. He was always the consummate victim. He was the victim of every person and every circumstance in every aspect of his life. He used this to get pity and sympathy and, of course, supply. I ended things because I wanted to end the continuously new hurts for both of us. I don’t know how that has worked out for you.